Sorry to learn about your mum T. It's really hard having a fractious parent who is terminally ill. I am in Johannesburg, South Africa at the moment, trying to sort out my mum's stuff. She has secondary breast cancer that has spread through both lungs. And this is exacerbated by type 2 diabetes.
When my daughter and I got here in July, my mum was still living alone in her house, which a complete shambles. Her fridge was full of rotting food, and she was very confused, but also extremely aggressive. It has taken almost 3 months to move her into a nursing home, sell her house and start to dispose of all her stuff. She was a hoarder of the worst kind - unable to throw anything out, and that includes old till slips, newspapers, bio-degrading plastic containers, broken and worn out clothing etc. The mess was indescribable, and also filthy. We cannot get rid of the mice
She was admitted yesterday to the local hospice with severe dehydration after three days of dreadful diarrhoea. I suspect that this was caused by uncontrolled high blood sugars, but everybody else is blaming the chemotherapy. I can't get these doctors to take diabetes seriously - they are all oncology experts, and dont get it that there may be another cause of her discomfort.
I have been dealing with antique dealers, junkshop dealers, charity shops, people tramping through to look at the house (which is now sold, thank goodness!) I still have to sell her car. We leave back home t New Zealand on 4th October, so the pressure is on to finalise as much as possible before then.
Well, I'm going to go see my mum now, so I'll stop
Nice to see you back on the forums T, and I'll try to keep up a but more often on the forums myself